How To Feed A Toddler

People I need your help!

BG has become a really fussy eater and I'm really having a tough time of it. I thought we were doing really well and was moving her away from jars and sloppy food onto more finger foods and a bigger range but we've taken two steps back due to her bouts of illness. So now I'm ashamed to say this but she back on jars quite a lot and I hate that but its all she will eat. I'm worried it will take ages to get back on track.

Pre illness she ate:

Breakfast - Porridge made with whole milk and fruit

Snack - Piece of fruit

Lunch - finger sandwiches, 1/4 pack of organix crisps & a banana

Snack - Rice cakes and dries fruit or a baby biscuit as a treat

Dinner - Pasta, peas & sweetcorn or homemade chicken dippers etc and a yogurt

Now she has pretty much the same except instead of sandwiches or homemade finger foods she either has a jar or homemade sloppy food such as mince or purreed veg. If I give her finger food she just throws it on the floor so I have to spoon feed her, but then she wants to feed her self and it goes everywhere as she doesn't eat anything!!

She has also dropped all milk feeds, I've tried givening her cows milk but she won't drink it

So I'm now at my wits end!! I need advice on what I should do or if I'm just worrying to much.

Thank you in advance

NM X