How To Make Friends BG Style

After our grumpy session at toddler group last week, BG took it upon her self this morning to try harder to make friends!

The cheeky grin didn't quite cut it last week with the mums

I know I'm biased but how can you resist that smile?

BG plan of action was the isolate one mum and work on her. She hit her with a the smile first, which recieved a small smile back.

Then after deciding that trucks where her toys of choice for the day, showed the truck to the mum and demostrated how it work. This worked well the mums was talking and playing with the mum and her son.

BG then offered to share her biscuit and drink with her, she doesn't share with mummy!

She then went in for the kill and put her hands up for a cuddle (only sligthly concerned she want to cuddle strangers!)

This won the mum over and they became fast friends and mummy had someone to chat to....thank you BG

Now we need to work on the other mums and BG needs to start playing with the other children.

NM X

Grumpy Mum's

I know Monday mornings are not most people’s favourite time of the week and today was cold and dull but that is a poor excuse for the amount of grumpy, miserable faces I saw at baby and toddler group this morning.

My friend invited me along to a local group last week, I’ve been trying to get out of the house more with BG during g the week so this was perfect as it s not very far from us. So I meet her and her daughter this morning and we walked to the group, as we walked she told me the group really isn’t that friendly. Now I’ve had my share of unfriendly mums though generally I have been fortunate to go to groups that are really nice, I don’t expect them to spend all the session talking to me but a smile and a hello is always welcome.

Nothing could prepare me for the sea of grumpy mums I saw today; it was a room full of slapped arses! They are not forced to go there, most of them where sat with other mums chatting away so why so glum? The group is held in a huge church hall, it reminded me of a school hall with a big stage at one end. There were loads of toys, art and craft tables and a really nice area for babies plus all the tea and coffee you could drink for a £1, what’s not to like?

They really were so grumpy, hardly anyone smiled or made eye contact, even when BG smiled at them (and that cheeky grin is hard to resist) they didn’t smile back.

At the end of the session they clear away and have a sing song, well you’d thought they had been asked to drink their own pee! They stood in the circle but hardly any of them sang or encouraged their children to join in. And don’t get me started on the mums that just plan ignored their children

The only good to come out of the group was BG had a great time, she ran around playing and dancing. It’s the first time she’s really had the confidence to leave my side when we go anywhere and just for that we will go again (and the copious amounts of coffee I can consume in an hour and a half!)

Hopefully next week they will be a bit happier.

NM X

That's It I'm Leaving The Baby....

..Group that is!! Ha ha had you worried!

Now its not because of the Yummy Mummies, or that its too much hassle to go! Its because its been taken over by the people that own the church hall and basically that have ruined the group!! (In my opinion of course)

Instead of the nursery rhymes playing there is a big screen TV playing kids programmes! If I wanted BG to watch TV I'd stay at home

Also (and I can kinda understand why they do it) that have made a baby corner (which the group already had) but the have turned the chairs to face the wall in a semi circle so you are away from the rest of the group!! So if no other babies BG's age are there then I have to sit facing a wall on my own with BG!! That's why I go to baby group to get away from my walls!!

Also the last organiser arranged visits from people and themed days and also had a news letter, now there is nothing.

There have been complaints on the local nets mums

So we are longer going which is a shame as it was just up the road and it was nice to get out on a Friday morning.

So until we find a new group that we can get to, I have bought a book on baby signing so we are going to learn that! and hopefully start swimming soon as well

OK rant over have a good night

NM x

I've Felt Like This Before.....

Baby and toddler group is supposed to be fun, so why do I feel like I’m back at school again!!

Me and BG went to baby and toddler group on Friday as usual, this group is quite new only been going a few months and I have been there from the very first day. Now even though its quite new cliques have formed quite quickly including the wannabe Yummy Mummy’s and I’m not one of them!

Anyway this week the group was taken over my Musical Mini’s I’m sure you can guess what’s involved. Me and BG had a great time, she really likes music and me singing so it was right up our alley. BG may be the youngest in the group but I’m sure she had the most fun!

Now these Wannabe Yummy Mummy’s are all designer gear and no substance, they obviously come to have a gossip and let the kids run around , which is fair play . Well they were not happy that they had to get involved , when we all sat around on the floor with our children ready for the first activity they all had faces like bulldogs licking piss off a thistle!! I however found this quite amusing!!

The problem I have with these women is that they are just not friendly, BG is the youngest there most of the time and the toddlers like to come and look at the baby which I don’t mind, their mum’s are normally right behind them to make sure they are not to rough. Now one of the reasons I don’t mind as it normally gives me a chance to chat to the other mums, these Wannabe’s don’t even smile back they just grab their kids and turn away!!! They are just so rude!! I am obviously not good enough to talk too or even warrant a smile. It just reminds me of being at school and not being one of the popular girls, I’m half expecting them to start pointing and laughing because I don’t have the right changing bag!

Seriously its like being a teenager again and god knows that wasn’t fun the first time round! I’m an intelligent woman, I have a degree for f***ks sake why do I let this get to me?? I think its because I thought as adults things would have changed and it wouldn’t matter what you wore or where you lived. That making friends would be easier but I was wrong!

I will however carry on going, I’m starting to make friends and BG seems to enjoy it and will carry on smiling and saying hello to the Wannabes because I’m a friendly person and I would hate them to feel the way I do.

NM x